So, I met a guy – HCFG – in online dating land. And he’s wonderful. We’re kinda, sorta, halfway, maybe, (I’m not jinxing this!) happy.
In case you are questioning the qualifiers, I’m not looking to have the universe bitch-slap me for being smug and or complacent. I am counting my blessings here, (and wish them to continue!)
And I’m feeling less inclined to blog because when you’re kinda, sorta, halfway, maybe, happy, you would rather live your life than write about it. At least in my experience. I also have a lot less free time than I used to! I’m not going to stop blogging though, I’m just explaining why I have been somewhat MIA of late. Mea Culpa. Anyway, it’s quite wonderful to enjoy someone’s great company on a regular and ongoing basis. Simply amazing, actually.
We are having a fabulous time together!
Kinda, sorta, halfway, maybe.
I was definitely noticing the lack of blog entries lately, and figured HCFG might be the source of multiple distractions. Though I am one of the most recent of your regular readers, I’d say that having you go off the air entirely would be a shame. So stay happy, but please burnish your time management skills a tad so that you have time to say what’s going on.
I can certainly understand your desire to avoid “jinxing” your relationship by speaking in tentative, qualified, thoroughly scrubbed middle-of-the-road adjectives. It’s a normal human trait, even in this technologically sophisticated age to believe that sounding too happy about something sets one up for a karmic comedown somehow. But it’s important to remember that other things that are well within your ability to affect the course of your relationship (and indeed your life happiness in general).
My own example: When I started dating again after a long hiatus, I was very careful not to sound too excited about anyone that I was seeing, lest I jinx the relationship. I also work with a pretty tough crowd, and announcing every two weeks or so after a promising first date that I was over-the-moon in love would seem to be sufficiently Junior High-level behavior that would inevitably get me kidded, teased and mocked significantly. But when I finally realized that multiple colors of plaid don’t really make the outfit, switched over to natural fibers from Finest Polyester, cast away my pocket protector and upgraded to a strict regimen of bathing daily, I noticed my dating life started to go much better, regardless of whether I “jinxed” things when I talked about them to friends & family.
“Lonely in Los Angeles”
Good for you. Here’s to finding the “other” half of happy!!
I love this sort of reason for not blogging.
Aha!! Love has pre-empted your blogging. Cool.
When a good writer suddenly becomes scarce, I usually figure “they have real lives to live.” And I’m glad I was right again.
Glad the relationship is going well so far. And please, enjoy yourself in the real world. You certainly deserve it.
I kind of figured you were off having fun somewhere. Congrats!
Well, I’m totally delighted. None of this half way stuff from me. You have the perfect reason for not blogging. I want to let you know now that I’m going to do a gig about forty minutes north of you in Mahopac on Sept 6 at a place called Dockside Pub. Let me know if you think there’s a possibility for you to come and we’ll be in touch. But just enjoy yourself, that’s all I care about. You so deserve it.
I too, am delighted about the reason of your hiatus. And believe you me, I completely understand. Something’s gotta give, a lot of the time, when you give a lot of your time to someone else.
Balance is key, sweetheart, and your readers just want YOU to be happy.
that’s great! and as long as you knock on wood whenever you say something like that, you run no risk of jinxing anything… you did do that, didn’t you? didn’t you? OK, I did just in case.
In the words of Janice Joplin: “Get it while you can.”
Spoken by a woman who is on her third marriage…
You know I’m totally rooting for you, kiddo! Both of ya! Miss you and hope we can hang out soon. I TOTALLY get the “real life” versus blogging thing. It’s all good.
A real love is better than a virtual love. All the best, Lisa.
It seems like when you’re either really feeling one extreme or the other, you’re kind of quiet in blogland. I’m happy for you that it’s the good extreme.
My extreme? No comment.
I am kind of sort of halfway almost happy for you!!
But just between us I am very happy for you and wish you all the best.
I wish you the best and not only kinda sorta halfway maybe.
Ok… that’s a good enough reason… HAVE FUN!!!
so happy for you, love!
Fingers. Crossed. And stuff.
happy is a very special place and I’m glad you’re there
I know exactly what you mean! I’m happy for your happiness!!
I knew it! I freakin’ knew it!
You’re cheating on me.
You’re going to make a lot of unattached people very envious, it says here.
Go LisaB! That’s great!
I’m flattered that Lisa wrote a post about me. Even if it is kinda, sorta, halfway, maybe complimentary. With all those qualifiers and “weasel words,” Lisa could be a lawyer, but fortunately isn’t.
I should apologize to all of you for keeping Lisa so busy lately. I’m not much of a TV-holic and Lisa’s remote control is complicated enough to frighten even a tech wizard like me. So we don’t spend too many nights at home with me curled up on the couch, remote in one hand and a beer in the other in stereotypical guy fashion. So Lisa doesn’t have a lot of easy blogging time.
So I’ll just say thanks for all your nice comments and I’ll do my best to motivate her to crank out another post soon, say, on our recent trip to Boston.
And we certainly definitely are kinda sorta halfway maybe possibly somewhat tangentially obliquely theoretically hypothetically happy.
–HCFG
^ Hey wait he has the same avatar as me.
You better change that or HE will not get laid for the next ten years.
Just sayin’…
Of course, if you leave his avatar like that he will be a “really, really sweet and dear friend who gives [you] that invaluable male perspective” to a lot of females out there, like I am.
^WTF is that thing supposed to be, anyway?
It looks like the fake volcano at the Mirage.
(The Mirage: Yeah, nothing bad ever happened THERE–no siree!)
To Zen Wizard:
Thanks for the suggestion on changing the avatar away from the default. I’ve updated mine to a Welsh Corgi, one of my favorite dog breeds. I have a lot of empathy for any critter that goes through life with big ears and short legs. I think the default avatar on Lisa’s site is Cookie Monster. The rationale behind this choice is confidential. I’ve tried to pry the secret from her, to no avail.
I agree that the fake volcano at the Mirage is worth avoiding if at all possible. I’ve done better science projects with baking soda and vinegar. I also understand your comment about how too generic an avatar could make it hard to tell people apart, possibly jinxing love lives. But there are other far more damaging things. Back on the Las Vegas comment, I bet that my love life would be more crippled if I admitted the Liberace Musuem is my favorite spot in Sin City than if I had a generic avatar.
-HCFG
Looks like you’re continuing to the blissful period… but hope to see a post from you soon!
I forgot to ask what does HCFG stand for or is it just your hot guy’s initials?
FROM LISA B.: HCFG stands for “Hot Cute Fun Guy.”
I don’t know if I like this love crap…, I mean it’s good for you but…
Well, I’m kinda, sorta, maybe, possibly, happy for you.