Once you’ve been involved with someone for a while, reality kicks in. In the beginning you think everything the other person does is wonderful.
“Aw Sweetie, you made me supper? And you took the subway 4 whole stops to Trader Joe’s to buy my favorite dessert? You are the best girlfriend EVER. You’re my Boo Boo!”
“Of course, Sweetie, nothing’s too much trouble for my Honey Bunny.”
Shmoopie time!
Well, all I can say is that after 25 years, you cherish those spontaneous romantic moments. I know some couples make them happen every day, but I do think those folks are few and far between. Don’t get me wrong: the love is there. It’s just that comfy kind of love, and the bells and whistles stuff is occasional.
Maybe it’s just me and my hubby, though.
What’s this kizmeet thing?
From Lisa B.: I think we all have a bit of that comfy thing going. Well said, my dear! And I responded to your Kizmeet question below…
@ Nat: Sorry there is a technical glitch. This link explains kizmeet.
Lisa,
Congrats on the Kizmeet thing. I look forward to seeing what an expanded audience for your blog will bring in terms of new comments and as an inspiration for even more fun posts.
In defense of my good name, I would like everyone to know I have improved dramatically at cleaning shaving cream out of the sink in just the brief interval since Lisa wrote this post. I do, however, try to leave a little bit of shaving cream by my ear at least a couple days a week so she can discover it and clean it off. She sees it as an accident, but I see it as creating a good excuse for a big morning hug… So “dratted every day stuff” can turn into close, intimate moments fairly quickly…
From Lisa B.: Thanks, HCFG, very appreciated!
And I DO appreciate how hard you are working to help create harmony and a clean sink
I always wondered why you constantly had shaving cream on your ear. Ah ha! Evil motives! I love it!
It only gets better over the years. You’ll know it’s true love when you purposely do stuff the other person finds annoying just to get a rise out of them.
I can give you lots of long term relationship war stories if you need them.
From Lisa B.: Vince, you troublemaker, you
And I would love to hear some of your stories, thanks!
Does this mean that if I respond, I get a date with you. Gee, there’s lots of tougher stuff I’d do just for that, but whatever you say….
From Lisa B.: Hoss, I doubt HCFG or your lady would approve! Thanks for your gracious offer though
LOL my dear! I toast to your schmoopiness!!
I didn’t mind the shaving mess/towels in the floor at first– until I went on a few trips with hubby before we got married and realized this was how he normally left things at the hotels. After we were married and he continued leaving his mess in the bathroom for me, I sat him down one night and asked him when he ever saw me dashing about the house pushing a cleaning cart, and wearing a blue smock with matching tennis shoes? He said at least twice a week, or as often as I saw him in the kitchen wearing a chef’s apron and a tall white hat. I guess we have what you might call an… ahem… 18-year long ‘understanding.’ LOLOL!! ;-D
From Lisa B.: *Clicks glass with Carolyn*
Hurrah for Shmoopieness!
Your comment made me howl with laughter – too funny! I’m definitely gonna try that approach
LOL HCFG maybe just created a trick I may even play on my wife. Thanks dude!
Ya got a smile out of me today Lisa
Glad everything is going so well!
From Lisa B.: HCFG laughed when he read what you said
Thanks Slick!
Hey, congratulations! It took me a little while to get caught up on your life, but it looks like a bowl of cherries right now! I am so happy for you!
From Lisa B.: Thanks so much! And it’s great to see you again
Hey this is your entry for the site? Nice work! I left another comment before I realized that. Go Lisa!
From Lisa B.: Thanks Bud, you are the best!!!
By the by, I wore your t-shirt to the gym yesterday
If you let him get away with calling you boo-boo then you must have it bad.
From Lisa B.: Apparently
It took a divorce for me to realize that it’s all about compromise and looking at all the things they do right, not wrong. That’s what keeps the love alive.
Congrats on all the great directions you’re headed …
From Lisa B.: Thanks for sharing that, Kat. Very appreciated.
And thanks so much!!!
Resist the shmoop! A “dear” here and a “honey” there is one thing. A “bunny-boo” is simply never a good thing.
But I’m glad you’re happy!
And in my experience (after almost 10 years of marriage), while the initial romance part is fantastic and all, the real reward comes from building the relationship over time. All the little things, held hands, brief kisses, etc. When you stand on top of all those things, the view is much better than even the initial rush.
Just one man’s opinion.
Nice article with Kizmeet. Keep up the good work! As for the substance, well … these things happen. Nothing to ignore, nothing to overdramatize; it’s part of relationships. You express it well.
I enjoyed this post, it’s so true! lol.
Anyway, I have posted on my blog!! Thanks for stopping by.
Congrats!
I was going to write all this other crap about my feelings about relationships and all but I decided to save them for a post.
I’m glad to know that we’re not the only “SHOOPS” around here! Congrats on the fabulous gig. SOOOO proud of you!!!
In order to maintain my relationship I go outside to use the toilet. The last time I messed up in there, she hit me on the nose with a newspaper.